So sick of boasting parents!?
immediately the 'my baby can do' started! i didn't join in, as my dad was doing enough of it for all of them!
but then they started on my sons weight. there is one baby in particular and her little girl is absolutely tiny, i would have said she looked ill. but they started making fun of my son and called him fat. i flipped out and said some inappropriate things about the parents. (when i say inappropriate, they were true, but mean to say)
now i feel bad, but i refuse to apologize to ignorant people who made fun of my son!
what would you all do?
if she was commenting to you that your son was fat.. then you acted appropriately for the most part
remember this mother's kid is really skinny, maybe she felt insecure and foisted the feeling off on you.... obviously since you exploded yourself... you probably have some insecure moments yourself.....
some people just like to boast and sometimes its not boasting... its parents tryingto find out how their kid is in comparision to others and see if thier kid is avg...
my son is a skinny child [built like his daddy]... and my bestfriend's son is a chunky lil'boy...they eat the same amount relatively, they actually weight about the same give or take a few oz....and are almost the same height although thier bodytypes are different...
we wouldn't know this unless we shared information about our babies...
of course there is a point when too much is too much... "oh your baby isn't doing ______, my baby has been doing that for soooo long... blah blah" that is inappropriate
also just because you dislike the mother is not a reason to disparage the poor lil'infant and say she looks ill because she's so tiny
babies come in different sizes and hit milestones differently... another friend with a daughter repeats words already and she's a month younger than my son 19 months, who does not...
Parents, but esp mums, can be soooo competitive and it is boring. All children are so different and they all do things in their own time. I find it really embarrassing when a mum starts playing the 'my baby can do' game and try really hard to get away from them. I don't join in because I know how stupid they look!
Don't get mad just be glad that you're not as insecure as them.
Sorry, i totally forgot to answer your question because you got me worked up about the people in my life. That was horrible of them to say-and although it felt good to be mean back to them at the time, it's really best to bite your tongue in those situations, and just say something like "well the doctor seems to think he is doing just fine, but thank you for your concern" if these people are close friends of yours, just let them know that it really bothered you when they said those things about him, and you don't want any problems with them. if theyre not close friends, just learn from the situation and move on. good luck!
i dont think u did anything rong, he is an innocent child and no need to poke fun at his weight.. that is why we have insecure children as young 5-6 years old trying to starve them selves to be think!
if u dont see these ppl often then just avoid them, if your dad thinks its such a big deal he can poiletly apoligize for u i gues.. good luck( and dont sweat the small stuff hun! )
Let it go. And in the future, try to brush off comments from people you don't care much about. Stand up for yourself & your little guy, but there's no need to get hurt over it or say mean things back.
What did you say back to them that you consider true but mean?
If it really bothers you that much, just throw something back at them like....yeah, he's a big boy, filled with personality and a big brain!
People are ignorant a lot of the time, but that's 'cos they've got nothing bright to say. And by any means, the photo you have, he doesn't look chubby anyway...who cares...he's your son you just say "We don't care what you think, do we Reece, we love you just the way you are...or yeah he's a chubber but his my chubber!"
My son progresses at his rate and his only.
I wouldn't apologize to someone that made fun of my son, harmless or not. I'd let it go but wouldn't apologize unless they did first and it was sincere
*lol yeah yesterday I did, I know who it was. Its funny when they post rants but I just want people to know Im not the crazy one!
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